After reading the jealousy quote, written by Jennifer James, I felt a feeling of security, wonder and thought. In my opinion everyone has a bit of jealousy in their lives today. Whether it is jealousy towards others or jealousy they receive from others. With that being said, I’d like to take a moment of your time to further more express, in detail, what jealousy means to me.
As the quote said “Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value.” As for my personal opinion I couldn’t agree more with the author. When I see the act of jealousy, it’s simply because a person finds a value in another that they wish they had. To give you a visual example you see jealousy in both women and men. For most women their jealousy is caused by another woman having a certain materialistic trait that they want. For most men their jealousy is triggered from lack of dominance or control. Women also tend to have jealousy in men. Women to men jealousy are usually triggered again by dominance or control. Some women feel inadequate to a more dominate man which causes a great deal of jealousy. Men also tend to have a great deal of jealousy in women. In most cases men to women jealousy is triggered by looks, beauty, and attraction. Some men are jealous of women because they get more attention than men.
Also in the quote it was stated “There is only one alternative to self value.” I believe that line ties it all in. it reminds me of one quote that said “you must first love yourself before you love another.” In other words you have to love and accept every part of your life before you go out chasing and envying someone else’s. For instance a woman who finds another woman that has a “happier” family hasn’t fully looked into her own life and family to witness the true beauty and love. Negativity and want brings jealousy to the point of no return. People get so intertwined the envy of someone’s life that they forget what they have and sometimes it’s more than you’ve ever expected. See, you can’t have everything you just have to appreciate what you do have and not feel the need to change.
Something also mentioned was “If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.” This part of the quote is my favorite because in so many words its saying let loose, let the world pass you by without noticing every detail, love your life for what it is and be thankful.
This quote helped me realize that being unique and different is not necessarily a bad thing. Loving you and knowing that what you have is so much more then what you think is a gift and without loving yourself as a whole first how can you ever be truly happy.
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